Couples communication

When you and your partner committed to be a couple, you formed a new family. You are now a unique combination, not a mirror of your parents or friends. You each bring your own ideas, values, and history to the relationship. Now your new family needs to form its own way of communicating.

You and your partner may love each other deeply and want very much to avoid anger and hurt feelings. But you may face unsettling issues, such as financial decisions, in-law tensions, or lifestyle differences. Being able to handle conflicts with love and respect is the key to working through difficult issues.

You and your partner can learn skills to build a considerate and supportive way to talk with each other. Ask your doctor about communication skills classes. Your doctor also can recommend a counselor to help you and your partner learn these skills.