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How can you care for your shy child?
- Help your child learn how to make and keep friends.
- Teach your child social skills. Show your child how to introduce themself, start conversations, deal with teasing, and politely join in play.
- Set an example for healthy relationships with your partner, relatives, and friends.
- Encourage your child to talk about their concerns and problems with making friends.
- Talk to your child about behaviors you see when they are with friends. Do this later so you don't embarrass your child. Offer suggestions for improvement.
- Don't push your child into uncomfortable situations. Doing this can hurt rather than build their self-confidence.
- Reassure your child that you accept them.
- Encourage positive experiences with peers. Try sports and clubs where your child can feel success and acceptance.
- Treat your child with respect. Ask for your child's views and opinions. Think about them seriously, and give meaningful and realistic feedback.
- Listen to your child. When your child shares something with you, give them your undivided attention. Listen carefully. Don't ridicule or shame your child.
- Let your child know that they are special. Give praise often. Even if your child's finished work does not meet your standard, find at least one good thing to say.
- Give a positive response to your child's efforts and interests. Make specific comments, such as "I really like the face on this person you drew."
- Support your child during their failures. Make sure your child knows that your love is unconditional, even when your child has made a mistake.
- Tell your child you love them for who they are, not for what they do.
- Encourage communication. Ask open-ended questions such as, "Tell me more about the math test."
Shyness: When to call
Watch closely for changes in your child's health, and be sure to contact your doctor if shyness gets in the way of your child's daily life.
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